Many of us spend hours scrolling through various social media apps looking at the lives of others wishing we had some aspect of their lives rather than our own.
We lose sight of our own accomplishments, and goals and become fixated on not being “as good as” or “not good enough.”
On and on it goes, day in and day out. All that time we spend wishing for what we don’t have, are hours wasted missing out on what we do have. Constantly comparing our lives to the lives of others leads to Despair thinking. We become blinded to the good qualities we possess and the good that surrounds us every day. We lose sight of our own accomplishments, and goals and become fixated on not being “as good as” or “not good enough.” This leads to ungratefulness, envy, low self-esteem, depression and anxiety.
Ways to stop the cycle:
Limit your time on social media. Do you really need 5 social media apps and ten thousand friends that you don’t know?
Before going to bed every night, write down three things that you are grateful for from your day, and three positive things you did during your day.
Take the area of your life that you criticize yourself for the most and make a point of changing your negative self-talk to positive. “I wish I had a bigger home.” Vs. “I am grateful for the home I am now living in.”
Make a list of all the things you have accomplished in your life, from high school graduation, to finishing college, or buying a home. Spend some time reading that list and appreciate all that has brought you to this point in your life.
Share the best parts of your day among family members. This enables everyone to take notice of the positives in their lives.
Surround yourself with those that lift you up and enrich your life.
Be “Flawesome.” – Accept all your flaws and know you are still awesome! Everyone has them, so you may as well embrace and love yours!